With the Supreme Court hearings about DOMA and Prop 8 over the last couple days (here’s a good run down of what’s going on from Jezebel if you need it), my Facebook and Twitter feeds have blown up with people expressing their views. Which is great, people should share their views on what’s going on politically but sometimes, UGH! Whenever there’s an election or a contentious law or something being talked about on Facebook I usually end up wanting to gouge my eyeballs out with a spork and then throw some acid in the empty sockets just for good measure.
And don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I can’t appreciate or respect views that differ from my own, I can’t stand seeing the posts that are dumb as fuck, from either side of an issue. Like seriously, UGH! There really is no better word than “UGH” for this. And it’s so hard to not to get involved when I see something particularly aggravating. One anti-gay marriage post on my news feed read, “Definition of marriage: the legal union of a man and a woman, typically by law to become husband and wife… just sayin.” Seriously? Seriously? Dude, do you not understand that definitions are written by fucking people with their own views and agendas and can often be outdated or biased? Definitions don’t come down to us from Plato’s world of forms or the fucking Definition Gods. They are written by people. So using the definition of marriage to make the argument that only men and women can get married is stupid. It’s stupid. And that word is harsh but I feel like it fits. Plus, using the definition of marriage as an argument when the debate that is happening is over the definition itself is extra stupid. Seriously, we’re debating over how marriage is defined and who, if anyone, has the right to define it so you can’t argue against gay marriage by giving us your definition of marriage. And note that I said “your” definition because if you asked me to define marriage I would say something like “the consensual union of two people under law.” And I wanted to say all of this to that guy but I couldn’t because we all know how Facebook arguments usually turn out. If someone said that to me in real life I’d probably respond because there’s more of a chance that we’d be able to speak properly about it all but not on Facebook.
So many of the things people are saying on Facebook about gay marriage and the gay and bisexual and transgender communities in general makes me livid. Fucking livid. And I’m going to say right now that although usually I make a conscious effort to remain open to opposing viewpoints and not just accept mine as the only right one, this is not one of those cases. I firmly believe that in regards to the allowance of gay marriage in our states there is only one right side and it is the side that says we need to give gay couples the same rights to marriage as straight couples. If you’re religion is against it, fine, then you can just not have a gay marriage but that doesn’t mean no one can. Your religion cannot dictate what the rest of us can or cannot do. And we have separation of church and state so the whole debate is stupid and shouldn’t be happening. And these arguments I just gave sound tired and worn out because we don’t need new ones. Our arguments are based on the constitution and the foundational belief in our society that everyone should be treated equally. Our arguments are basic and fundamental because the issue shouldn’t be an issue at all. So these posts saying being gay is somehow wrong and we can’t let gay people marry because it will destroy society make me want to kill myself. Which is why I’m writing this rant in my blog right now, because I seriously can’t hold it in anymore. This whole thing is stupid. I need to go look at cat videos to calm down.
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